A few months from now, when the Giants are 10-40 and we’re drawn back to caring about them because of the 10-year anniversary celebration of the Giants’ first World Series win in San Francisco — still my personal favorite — the subject of Aubrey Huff will once again emerge to ruin the mood. But if we’re very lucky, that reemergence will be short-lived, mainly because he won’t be at the actual ceremony.
The Giants took the necessary step of disinviting him from their celebration because he’s not only a huge distraction by what he’s said recently on social media — the man hates women — he’s also a general liability claim waiting for them.
“Earlier this month, we reached out to Aubrey Huff to let him know that he will not be included in the upcoming 2010 World Series Championship reunion,” the Giants said Monday night in a statement.
“Aubrey has made multiple comments on social media that are unacceptable and run counter to the values of our organization. While we appreciate the many contributions that Aubrey made to the 2010 championship season, we stand by our decision.”
He has already taken to public harassment of one of the Giants’ new coaches, history-maker Alyssa Nakken, and this morning he doubled down on his comments about women coaches in pro sports. On a fundamental level, the Giants couldn’t invite this angry, sad, and lazy person to interact with their organization in even a celebratory capacity because it would be inviting harassment of one of their employees.
It’s not difficult to imagine Huff showing up to the event already loaded, making sexually crude comments directly at Nakken or about her to the likes of Buster Posey and Brandon Crawford. While it’s true that the game is rife with razzing, teasing, and flat out rudeness, targeted, gendered garbage is something the clubhouse culture — indeed, the whole goddamn rest of us — are trying to move beyond.
But I can’t make the obvious case as to why the Giants should distance themselves as much as possible from this toxic person — at least, not to the angriest, saddest, and laziest among us. The battle lines have already been drawn, and what’s obvious to literally most Giants fans is not to a loud contingent of men who feel aggrieved by the world, even if they’re unwilling to see their own role in why their lives are so miserable — and Aubrey Huff’s life is absolutely miserable.
It’s not hard to see Huff’s social media “oeuvre” and feel the deep pain and shame the guy feels. He hates himself and maybe that’s born of some specific trauma, but at this point what his behavior asks of us is not understanding or tolerance, but of self-defense. He offends because he’s offensive. He seeks to redistribute his pain. None of us owe him our minds as his punching bag. The dude can get bent and, with any luck, go away.
So why do we keep coming back to him? Why did 95.7 The Game have him on the air this morning to address the matter? Why does he have supporters? And why do they want to make this some sort of referendum on the treatment of Republicans by Democrats?
What are Aubrey Huff’s politics?
So he tagged Donald Trump in a tweet-response to the Giants. That’s the laziest path to making something “political”, and it’s only about finding the largest platform and most bulletproof tank of destruction with which to weaponize one’s anger and sadness. There’s no reason to “make this political”, because there’s nothing political about “joking” about kidnapping and raping women or actively hating the very notion of women coaching men.
He’s free to express his views in this somewhat free country, but these values are not shared by all; and so in such places where those views aren’t shared, it’s not a leap to say he’s not welcome to participate in a positive ceremony that would seek to give him adulation. The Giants have already thanked him for his 142 OPS+, if not in 2010 with the $3 million salary and playoff shares he was paid in full — as well as a World Series championship celebration stage on which to speak — then in 2011 and 2012, when he was paid an additional $20 million to be one of the worst players in baseball.
The beauty of it all is that the Giants are creating the void for him to scream into and to once again find himself on the outside looking in at the world, giving him another bit of evidence in his belief that the world has wronged him and owes him some sort of emotional make-good. Except that’s not the case, either. What Aubrey Huff really wants is for us to endure him and accept him no matter what he says or does or how he feels.
Nobody is owed that and nobody gets everything they want.